I know I should not complain, I have a wonderful husband, a supportive family, great friends, and God has kept us wrapped in his arms since I got here to NY. But most of the wonderful things in my life are back home in California. They are living life without me. They are having birthdays, having babies, graduating from college and graduate programs, and I can only support them with a phone call. Home sickness has set in a in a scary way, and I don't know what to do. But moving back to CA is not an option.
My husband loves NY and has a disdain for CA for reasons I will never understand. He just thinks that NY is magical and has so much more to offer. I, on the other hand, have not figured out what is so damned special about this place. The NY I live in is not the Sex and the City NY or the Friends NY or any of the fun, sexy NY shows I have seen before. My NY is scrapping by, trying to find a job, not knowing when I can afford to go visit my family again, my husband's family looking at me as a foreigner and because he is "so independent" they forget we are even here and rarely invite us out with them, and only a handful of friends who I see very rarely.
I may not be cut out for this place. I don't like the public transportation. Driving is horrific because finding parking is damn near impossible unless you can afford a parking garage.
I can't say it has been all bad though. I took some modeling classes and learned a lot about the Plus Model industry. I volunteered for FFFWeek 2010 and am working on this year's event as an assistant. I was cast in a new musical last year (although it never went up) and was just cast for a staged reading later in 2011. But I am still unemployed. I am not even getting calls for theater jobs. No one wants me (at least no one who will pay me).
But marriage is about compromise, right? Give a little to get a little? So that is what I do as my second year in NY continues on and I pray it gets better.